Thankful Thursday on a Friday morning…Why not?

I recently read a fellow blogger’s post that she dedicated to her best friend. She compiled a list of 20 things that her bestie has taught her. (see her post http://natalieslovelyblog.com/2014/12/24/20-things-my-best-friend-has-taught-me/ )

It has inspired me to do something similar.

Invaluable Lessons Learnt From A Friend

My only friend is a guy. I consider him to be one of my soul mates. Yes, I believe you can have more than one. I believe I have two. And yes, I don’t think it has anything to do with romance.

(more of my view on that : https://flutterbyinspira.wordpress.com/2014/10/15/whats-the-deal-with-soul-mates/ )

I have learnt so much from him. In ways I didn’t think were viable.

  • I’ve learnt that soul mates aren’t always designed to be your spouse.
  • That it is possible to live without letting anger govern any of your actions, not even an outburst of any kind.
  • I learnt the value of having someone that you can go to with anything and trust that they will NEVER judge you.
  • He has taught me that you don’t have to react to everything people say or do to you.
  • He has taught me the value of having a kindred soul to connect with.
  • I have seen the value of open communication in any relationship because of the one I have with him.
  • I’ve learnt that just because it is possible to have this kind of relationship with him doesn’t mean there are others I can have the same type of relationship with. Different strokes for different folks I guess.
  • He has made me aware of the power of affirmation.
  • And that there is immense value in having someone who gives it to you straight.
  • I have learnt that not everybody will use what you have confided in them as a weapon. I needed to learn that one, people are, or rather, can be quite terrible sometimes.
  • That it is possible to live truly selflessly.
  • That friendship is the space that allows you to share physical space with someone without saying a word and emerge from it feeling refreshed and grateful.
  • And that it is perfectly ok to disagree vigorously. It does not change the dynamic of a solid relationship. In fact it should make it stronger.
  • I’ve learnt to appreciate early morning coffees, milky tea, double-decker sarmies, late night movies, the discovery channel, chocolate-stoney get-togethers, listening to music in the dark and silent drives to beautiful places.
  • One of the best things I’ve been taught from my bestie is that sometimes what I think I need is not what I need at all. It’s comforting to know that there is someone out there who sees through me well enough to do, for me, what I need most at the exact time I need it

The thought of losing him used to panic me, but we have evolved beautifully. We love without regrets and that means being grateful for what we have been gifted with and being content with it. He has invaded my space in ways I did not know was possible while respecting me all at the same time. (His response to that particular line would be…”it’s not invading if the space is already yours”.)

More than a few times people have suggested that we are biased in our relating to each other. My response to them – no one else would be able to handle how direct we are with each other. They don’t want to.

I always think about that. People don’t often truly appreciate that kind of direct interaction. They stumble and get offended and give you the cold shoulder.

I am the kind of soul who really appreciates genuine people. People, who without an ounce of nastiness, will tell me the truth about anything, who won’t hide behind what society has taught them “is just not done that way”, who don’t have a hidden agenda, who won’t fake their help or love or like or dislike or anger or sadness. I have found very few people in my days on this earth that can do that.

I think it’s because there are so many souls out there who are easily offended because they have claimed a right to not be treated a certain way. They think in lines of not deserving certain treatment and won’t accept anything sub-standard. I am not saying we are worth nothing and deserve to be trashed in any way. I am saying, there is a bigger picture. People like Ghandi, Jesus, the apostles, various cultures and races, have suffered and have been tortured and killed for effecting changes I only dream of now. They definitely didn’t deserve the treatment they got. But they did not allow it to make them back down from what they were passionate about. Why should we?

My friend, only by God’s grace, has made me aware of all of this and so much more. I miss him dearly.

I am grateful.

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Thankful Thursday: Another list…

Brownie in a cup (yes again)

An opportunity to spend time watching my little girl play in a blow up pool for the first time.

A man who decided to make lunch for me

Having my man at home for the holidays

A new hair care regimen that seems like it could actually work

New found confidence only made possible by my King

Angry Birds 🙂

The hope of new job opportunities

We have much to be grateful for. It’s weird, for me, to have to actually think about what I am thankful for each week. Makes me feel a bit guilty. Truth is, the things I am thankful for don’t often change much. But I am truly grateful for them. Having my husband go out and work for me and our daughter each day is something that takes my breath away. All the time. He looks after us so well and I count myself privileged to be able to call myself his wife. Many women never get to experience what I do on a daily basis. And I am honoured.

Another thing I stay amazed at is the blessing of having someone to speak to who truly gets what I am saying. They listen without prejudice or judgement and they aren’t afraid to tell me when I am wrong. And when I speak, I don’t have to explain myself in excess.

Isn’t it strange how people think they have the right to judge you just because they think they know you?  Ok, I know, that had nothing to do with my list or reasons for posting today. But it has made me incredibly grateful for what I have in my only human friend.

I know many may never experience what I have and it always boils down to just one thing…. God loves me. Now I love Him with my life.

Thankful Thursday: The Wine Press

I am reading a book on Discipleship called The Journey Of A Disciple by Stuart & Jill Briscoe.
(Brilliant read)

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Last night I read a chapter written by Jill Briscoe about Hannah, Samuel’s mother. (From 1 Samuel 1)

Hers is really a story of pain, bitterness, faith and surrender.

There are more than two reasons I feel I can relate with her. She remains an absolute inspiration to me and not only because she was barren and then had children. But because of the general space she found herself in.

One of the things I was made aware of was back then, having children sort of equaled God having blessed and favoured you. So Hannah must’ve felt completely in disfavour with God. Yet there she was, running to the temple to speak to Him.
Good thing though because no one else could ever really get what she was going through.
I’m thankful today that I can do that too. Regardless of what is happening in my life I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I can take my woes and worries to God.

Jill concludes the chapter by writing about the three ways grapes used to be pressed back in biblical times. And how its the not so comfortable pressing that produces wine in the vineyard of our lives. 
Its very insightful and it really got me thinking.

If its the pressing I’m experiencing currently then that means wine is sure to follow from my own vineyard. And to make it tasty and delicious I am making a point of being thankful for the fruit of my harvest.

– restoration
– deliverance for my family
– wholesome fellowship
– an even closer relationship with my man
– better homemaker skills
– an awesome blog
– a self hosted site

I’m also thankful for yummy chats with my friend. I miss him so much but I’m thankful he is happy and healthy and blessed.

Thank God for the wine press of life.

Inspired and Loved

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